Photo by Sharon McCutcheon on Unsplash Years ago, before I started therapy and before I started writing for others, I made a decision. I had a parenting moment which demonstrated to me that my life of “being fine” was a lie, and—most importantly—that I wasn’t going to be the only person hurt by that lie. … Continue reading Giving Life
Photo by Raimond Klavins on Unsplash There’s a question I’ve wrestled with since some of my earliest memories, though I can’t pinpoint exactly the first time it rose in my mind. I know it was before I was ten because that was the year I wrote a novella with this question at the heart of … Continue reading Where Mine End and Yours Begin
Photo by Josh Appel on Unsplash When you flip a coin for something, you choose heads or you choose tails, but it’s still the same coin flipping. One coin, two sides. But which side you choose can make all the difference. Maybe you’re flipping to decide if you’re having pizza or pancakes for dinner, or … Continue reading Heads or Tails?
Photo by Tingey Injury Law Firm on Unsplash Recently, I’ve been focused heavily on my forthcoming memoir, resilient. As is the case any time you are writing about personal experiences, I’ve had to relive many periods in my life in order to write them in such a way that the reader is right there with … Continue reading Luxury or Right?
Photo by Sheldon Liu on Unsplash I love creating. Of course, not all creative talents are created equally—at least not for me. Most of mine was diverted into writing, though I still enjoy engaging in other artistic pursuits from time to time. One such pursuit is drawing. Every so often since I was young, I’ve felt a deep … Continue reading All the beautiful, imperfect things
Photo by Artem Kovalev on Unsplash Thanksgiving is—bar none—my favorite holiday of the year. Yes, I do celebrate Christmas. And no, Christmas isn’t actually my favorite holiday. It really is Thanksgiving. You may be wondering, Turkey and stuffing and potatoes and beans and pies and cookies? Eating to excess for days on end? You like that more than … Continue reading Time to Breathe
Last month, I finally did something that I’ve been thinking about way longer than I’ve ever admitted aloud. In fact, I was thinking about it decades ago, when I was still a pre-teen and had no idea how I would do it. And once I finally decided to do it, I was incredibly nervous. I … Continue reading Trashy
Growing up in various cities around Washington, D.C. that were inhabited by just about every race and skin color, I didn’t look particularly different from everyone else. My brown, biracial skin wasn’t out of place or something that drew attention, so I never really thought about race. I noticed other things, though. Like income disparities … Continue reading Mixed in America: A Perspective on Discrimination
Photo by Caleb Woods on Unsplash Have you ever done something to lose face with your peers? Your superiors? Maybe your family or friends? I think it’s almost a rite of passage to do so when you’re growing up; it’s part of learning acceptable social behavior and developing your sense of right and wrong, your … Continue reading Losing Face
Much like Annie, the main character in my novel Finding Annie, I have always searched for silver linings. The more dire the situation, the more important it has always been for me to find something positive; I simply can’t stomach the thought of something dreadful occurring and having only terrible takeaways. Some aspect of my … Continue reading Moments of Gratitude