Why I Write What I Write

Unsurprisingly, I was writing away with every spare moment that wasn’t spent reading when I was in fifth grade.  I remember with that vivid clarity reserved only for pivotal moments in our lives spending the entirety of winter vacation that year in Florida at my foster-grandparents’ house.  Aside from the plane ride there from our home in Virginia where I had my nose glued to the window, simply enthralled by the novelty of riding in a plane for the first time, I was clutching a pen and a notebook. 

The notebook itself was small and nondescript, maybe six inches tall, spiral bound at the top, and already missing several pages; it was one of a collection of partially used notebooks my foster mom kept in a closet rather than wasting the paper by tossing them once their original purpose had been fulfilled.  The cover was hunter green, the pages a lighter shade of the same color with a faint line drawn down the center; I’m pretty sure it was manufactured before 1970. 

I wrote feverishly during our trip, spending hours at a time prone on my stomach in that Florida living room.  Ignoring the sunshine outside the sliding glass doors in order to write a story that refused to be ignored.  I filled every page, and then I used the three-hole-punch loose-leaf ruled paper, yellowed with age, that my foster grandmother found in a desk drawer that likely hadn’t been opened in decades.  But I didn’t care – new paper or old paper made no difference to me – it was all capable of holding the words I needed to write.

And write I did; by the time we returned to Virginia, I had a novella.

A short novel – I couldn’t believe it! I spent the next weeks reading through, using my pen to scratch things out and rewrite them, to add in new content in the margins, editing furiously until I reached the end.  Then, I read through again, and decided that for the time being, I was satisfied.  And I was enormously proud of myself for having written something of such proportions.  It was the first time in my life that I’d ever felt that kind of pride.

My heart pounding, I carried the notebook and loose papers that were now stapled together into my classroom and asked my favorite teacher, Mrs. J, if she would read my story.  To my delight and relief, she not only said yes, but was genuinely enthusiastic about the opportunity.

Instead of abating, my excitement only grew with each passing day that I waited for Mrs. J to tell me she’d finished reading my story.  For her to return it to me  along with verbal confirmation of what I was already certain in my gut:  I’d written something worth reading.  Finally, the day arrived.  At the end of the day, after the other kids had left, Mrs. J handed my writing back to me, but instead of seeing my excitement reflected in her eyes, I was faced with an averted gaze.  I asked her, crestfallen already, if my story was awful.  She assured me it wasn’t.  And she thanked me for sharing it with her.  But something about it had bothered her – I could see it in her eyes as they filled with tears when she finally made brief eye contact with me.  I could hear it in the silence that followed her opening her mouth several times only to close it again when she couldn’t find any words to say to me.  I could feel it in the way her interactions with me changed as she began treating me with a cautiousness she’d never had before.

“Every secret of a writer’s soul, every experience of his life, every quality of his mind is written large in his works.” -Virginia Woolf

One day not long after Mrs J. returned my story, she had a conversation with my foster mom about what I had written.  I don’t recall the bulk of the conversation as most of it simply passed in through one ear and out through the other.  What I do remember are the same words that caught my attention that day:  not normal

I was suddenly drowning in shame and embarrassment; I’d been wrong about writing something worth reading.  Not only that, but I’d just gotten a reminder of something I’d come close to forgetting – I wasn’t normal.

I went home and threw out my story, convinced after that experience that I just wasn’t good enough to write a novel.  And, from that day forward, I was much more guarded about what writing I shared with other people, apprehensive about how they might react.

Many years have passed since that day and I now understand what I didn’t have the capacity to understand then.  Mrs. J had used the words “not normal” to describe what I had shared with her, and she was right – my story wasn’t normal, especially for a child.  But I had grossly misunderstood her reaction.  It wasn’t rejection or disgust or a pronouncement on my worth or writing ability. 

She was upset; her heart hurt for what must have occurred to inspire what I’d written and she simply had no idea how to communicate that to a ten-year-old.

You see, I had written about consent.  The story of a girl who found and then used her voice to set boundaries about her body.  The story of a girl who found a boy who respected her and taught her to respect herself in the wake of being touched against her will. 

I had written the story that I, with my own history of sexual abuse even at that age, was desperate to read.

“As a writer, you try to listen to what others aren’t saying… and write about the silence.” -N.R. Hart

Now, decades later, I’ve picked up my pen again, and what I’m doing is really no different from what I did then.  I’m writing the stories that I want to read, that I know others like me want to read, because we want to see ourselves in the books we pick up.  I’m writing stories about people who struggle with the life-long impacts of physical and emotional abuse and sexual assault.  People who battle anxiety disorders and PTSD from childhood trauma. 

People like me.

Instead of hiding them as if they don’t exist, I’m exposing those raw and gritty and sometimes infuriating imperfections that are simultaneously what make us strong and beautiful.  And I’m doing it all through the lens of one of my favorite genres:  romance. 

Because, truly, love makes everything possible.


Katherine Turner is the author of Finding Annie, a contemporary romantic women’s fiction novel that explores the power of love and human resilience in the wake of trauma and abuse. She blogs about mental health, trauma, and ways we can be more compassionate as a society. Sign up for her newsletter to stay up to date and get the first five chapters of her novel Finding Annie free!

4 thoughts on “Why I Write What I Write

  1. Seems like my first response to all of your posts is Wow!! I personally am grateful you have chosen to share this blog and your life with others. You are right! Others do want to read what they can relate to and see themselves in. I feel blessed to have found your blog and would love to share it with others. Thank you so much!

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    • Thank you – that means a lot to me. The decision to be so open about my personal history was a difficult one, but I really hoped to be able to connect with others with similar histories; if I can help one person feel more understood or less alone, the vulnerability is more than worth it. Thank you again for your kind words and your support!

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  2. I know that exact feeling you are speaking of, as a young girl writing. I have been in terrible situations, and when I read what your story was about I got a lump in my throat. I am happy you are sharing your experiences here. 🙂 I look forward to reading more of your blogs.

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