Photo by Lee ็ด on Unsplash What do you think of when you hear the words โmy first timeโ? I expect some people will flash back to that very first time they had consensual sex. Some may be propelled back in time to the first time they were assaulted. Perhaps others who are acquainted with … Continue reading My First Time
Sexual Assault
Dear Society (or why I wrote my memoir)
Photo by Florian Klauer on Unsplash Chanel Miller wrote the words below in her memoir, Know My Name, about societal expectations that we only focus on the positive, that we only tell the โhappyโ parts of our stories and shy away from anything unpleasant or uncomfortable. Anything that isnโt uplifting, heartening, inspiring. Anything that makes … Continue reading Dear Society (or why I wrote my memoir)
Giving Life
Photo by Sharon McCutcheon on Unsplash Years ago, before I started therapy and before I started writing for others, I made a decision. I had a parenting moment which demonstrated to me that my life of โbeing fineโ was a lie, andโmost importantlyโthat I wasnโt going to be the only person hurt by that lie. … Continue reading Giving Life
Where Mine End and Yours Begin
Photo by Raimond Klavins on Unsplash Thereโs a question Iโve wrestled with since some of my earliest memories, though I canโt pinpoint exactly the first time it rose in my mind. I know it was before I was ten because that was the year I wrote a novella with this question at the heart of … Continue reading Where Mine End and Yours Begin
Luxury or Right?
Photo by Tingey Injury Law Firm on Unsplash Recently, Iโve been focused heavily on my forthcoming memoir, resilient. As is the case any time you are writing about personal experiences, Iโve had to relive many periods in my life in order to write them in such a way that the reader is right there with … Continue reading Luxury or Right?
All the beautiful, imperfect things
Photo by Sheldon Liu on Unsplash I love creating. Of course, not all creative talents are created equallyโat least not for me. Most of mine was diverted into writing, though I still enjoy engaging in other artistic pursuits from time to time. One such pursuit is drawing. Every so often since I was young, Iโve felt a deep … Continue reading All the beautiful, imperfect things
We are the Storm
Photo by Breno Machado on Unsplash If I had to label the way I engage in the writing process, I would say that I'm an intuitive writer. Itโs as if Iโm listening to a friend tell me a story about their life and I'm simply here to transcribe their words. I also follow my gut regarding which project … Continue reading We are the Storm
Trashy
Last month, I finally did something that Iโve been thinking about way longer than Iโve ever admitted aloud. And once I finally decided to do it, I was incredibly nervous. I wanted nothing more than to have someone there with me, but in these days of a global pandemic, having someone with you isnโt allowed; … Continue reading Trashy
More Than A Name
Photo by Neil Su on Unsplash โWhatโs in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet.โ William Shakespeare Youโre likely familiar with the line above from Romeo and Juliet, spoken by Romeo about the fact that Juliet is a Capulet, his familyโs sworn enemy. His words speak … Continue reading More Than A Name
Losing Face
Photo by Caleb Woods on Unsplash Have you ever done something to lose face with your peers? Your superiors? Maybe your family or friends? I think itโs almost a rite of passage to do so when youโre growing up; itโs part of learning acceptable social behavior and developing your sense of right and wrong, your … Continue reading Losing Face